I remember holidays full of high expectations and obligations, often too much to enjoy.
- Hurrying to events
- Scheduling visits with friends and relatives
- Deadlines for mailing cards and gifts
What should be a fun experience may become overwhelming.
- Plan ahead –
- Decide in advance what events are most important to you
- Budget your time as well as your money
- Consider changing a tradition
- who do you want to reconnect with or visit
- Simplify –
- Less decorating means less clean up later
- Less overspending can lower stress later
- Shorten the guest and gift list
- Ask others to help
- Ask yourself –
- what do you really want to do
- learn to say “no” when it’s just too much
- Some feel a sense of loss and loneliness –
- Be sensitive, listening to your own heart and to others
- Call a friend or write a note. It is so lovely to get mail that is not a bill.
My mother was a planner, a note writer and a great communicator. She wrote notes to the lonely. She put anonymous money in cards and left them at church for a poor widow friend. She called the out-of-towners. She baked for the sick. She made lists of her holiday menus. She planned well. I don’t remember her ever being down on the holidays because her focus was on others.